Just Chatting: Update

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So there's this thing they call coming out. And that's a shit way to describe it. It sounds like all you have to do is walk out and bam! everything is fine. That's not how it is. I think many people have no clue what it's like to have to rethink your entire life and everything you had previously thought you would do with your life and what everyone expected of you to do in your life (well most people, yes because most people are straight I suppose).

Let me tell you that you spend a lot of time thinking about it. About a third of the time that I have alone I'm thinking about it. And it's not like you get anywhere thinking. You know that you've just got to give it time but that doesn't make a shred of difference.

And you wonder how it's going to change your life a shitload, because it is. It's going to change it a lot. And for some reason you feel like it should change you as a person, but then it's not going to at all because it's just something that you've always been, and so saying a couple of words isn't going to make you vastly different. To put this post right guys, I'm not trying to whine. I swear, I know I haven't got a bad life. In fact I've got a good life, but really coming out is hard. And you feel guilty the whole time because you feel like you're lying to everyone all the time. Seriously I have to randomly put in comments about hot guys that I don't find attractive to my friends so they don't think I'm weird. I don't know. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

OK I did come here with a reason, this wasn't a completely random post. My point is if you have a friend who you think is gay and they haven't come out to you yet a) assume they're straight until they actually tell you otherwise. If they are gay, it'll freak them the hell out (or at least it would to me) if you start dropping comments about it. b) give them a bucket load of time. All the time they need. You try and think about how much time it would take to rethink your entire life and what you planned, and try and figure out the gay world while wondering how on earth you manage to know if the girl/guy you find attractive is gay or not and how you approach them and that most of your friends will flinch at sight you kissing someone of the same gender. That shit takes time. Be sympathetic. But not obviously. No actually screw sympathy. Just treat them as you would any other person, without thinking. Because that's exactly who they are. And they are most definitely the same person they've always been. 

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