Now I write about friends a lot. Mainly because they're a big part of my life. Confusing. Wonderful. Fricken annoying. Generally just between "yay friends" and "ugh friends" is my opinion of them.
Truth be told, I do love my friends. I love them dearly. So I get annoyed at them. And that's exactly what everyone has to do (to stay sane).
If you can't get annoyed at your friends, you're not friends with the right people. If you feel annoyed at them all the time, you're also friends with the wrong people. And as a young girl, I wish someone had told me that. It would've saved me so much time.
If you don't believe me, think about the people you love. Parents, siblings? (Yes you might not feel like you love them at the moment but you probs do...) Some times you love them to pieces (generally when you feel all emotional and mushy and everything), and at other times you hate them so much you want to drive a truck over them.
That's like friends. You spend some great times with them, but you're not happy all the time, and neither are they; both of you get angry. Just don't take it out on them (unless for the 50th time it is definitely their fault), just say "not in the best mood right now mate," and put your music in and rock out (seriously the rocking out is the most essential part when you're up to it).
Learning how to be angry, and that it is OK to be angry is one of the hardest things I've ever had to learn, particularly because no one ever told me that feeling angry is OK. It's not OK if it's all the time, but on ever occasion it's just what you feel and that's fine.
There's no particular solution for when you are pissing some one off, as it's different for every friendship, but a useful phrase when you notice that you're pissing someone off is "oh sorry bro [or insert term you address them with], I'm pissing you off, I'll leave you alone now." Just coming straight at it is usually the best approach for any situation.
Music: St. Lucia, Peking Duk, Laidback Luke, NEW NAVY, Northeast Party House, Crooked Colours, Children Collide, Bluejuice, The Holidays, Andy Bull, The Trouble With Templeton, World's End Press, The Hics, ASTR, YesYou, Jaymes Young
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